"The Worst the News, the More Effort Should Go Into Communicating It."....Andrew s. Grove, CEO, Intel Corp

Communication Between Men and Women

"Good Communication is as Stimulating as Black Coffee, and Just as Hard to Sleep After."....

Anne Morrow Lindbergh

It seems so simple, words between two people of the opposite sex, communication. The definition, the exchange of ideas, conveyance of information. In fact, this simple form of relaying and conveying thoughts, ideas, and feelings has proven, over the decades, to be difficult, arduous, painstaking, complicated, misconstrued, argumentative and disastrous.

I am the first to admit that at my age (hey hey), I refuse to mince words and to internalize how I feel. If communication is the expressive tools to convey how I feel then I am expressing. I have never sought to be malicious and combative (well sometimes). I do attempt to be thought provoking and insightful to my state of mind at that particular time. I believe when approaching a sensitive matter, you should be very careful of how and what you say. At the same time, one should be convincing and compelling of his/her thoughts.

">

Communication mixed with today's savvy technology lends numerous ways of communicating without direct interaction with each other. I really find this to be cowardice and shallow. I too have used these forms of communication. I really loath this impersonal form of communicating. I find these forms of communication to be used as a veil or a shield of deception, untruths, manipulation and lies. Men and women are already saddled with the hurdles of truthful, meaningful and honest communication, why add to the burden.

">

I have met several men in the past year and all rely heavily on texting, emailing, twitter, facebook or other blog sites. While I realize that these forms of communication play a significant role in our society, I hate that it has taken the place of true meaningful dialogue between men and women. These forms of communication can never place hearing the tone of how a voice changes when responding to a question or how a person pauses when he/she is trying to formulate a response. Hearing a person voice gives the listener insight to the state of mind of that person talking.

">

I take a stand today. As a queen, I will no longer accept anything other than ear to ear or face to face communication when discussing personal matters with someone of the opposite sex. Queens no longer allow a man to leave a texted message explaining why he did not show up for a date or mail you explaining why he is breaking up with you. I expect the same treatment from you queens. Let us regain some resemblance of normalcy and honesty in our interaction with the opposite sex. Don't allow complacency and not wanting to chase a man away when we demand to be treated "right and descent".

">

Peace and Blessings,

">

Tracey ReNissa

"We're All Born Under The Same Sky, But We Don't All Have The Same Horizon."...Konrad Adenauer..

What Are You Seeking In A Relationship And What Are You Willing To Give Of Yourself In A Relationship?

As a woman in my forties, there are certain expectations, desires and standards that I believe I am entitled to. This is not an entitlement of selfishness or greed. It is an entitlement that I have as a queen seeking my king who is deservant of me, an entitlement as a child of God, and a righteousness that is entitled to me based on the Word of God. It is an entitlement that tells me that I want and deserve the best that life has to give me and in return I will reciprocate these same virtues and qualities to my King.

I seek first and foremost a man that is a child of God. I seek an honorable man that stumbles with flaws. This man with imperfections realizes that he is imperfect but strives to better himself and his family. For this man is not perfect but perfect for me. I seek my strong African American man that places no one before me but Our Lord and Saviour. I seek this strong outspoken man that cradles me in my moments of despair, my moments of tiredness and my moments of weakness. And with this spirit of outspokenness there is this quiet storm that is able to discern the situation and time to be outspoken vs. a quiet storm. The spirit of discernment is important to a man of leadership and authority. My king has a swagga that he owns and can never be duplicated. I seek a man that has Love for only me. His heart is too selfish to wander away from me, his true love. This man of God places his wife and family first. I seek a provider, a warrior, and a protector. This man of my, works endlessly and tirelessly to provide the essentials for his family. I seek a man that radiates self-confidence but needs not to be boastful and conceited. This man of my takes pride in his appearance. Are you that man for me.

As your queen, I take my role and place as your queen seriously. I place no one above you but my Lord and Saviour. I will stay by your side during all times. I will honor you both publicly and privately. I will never emasculate who you are. As your queen, my position is to feed and nourish you spiritually, physically and mentally. I am that voice of reason when you have doubts and concerns. I am that shelter when you need to be shielded. I am that queen confident enough to walk in your shadow without losing who I am. I am that queen that is sure of my position and role in your life and heart to allow you to be you. I am the mother of our children. I am your check and balance. I am your confidant. Most importantly, I am your perfect queen, not perfect in God's creation but perfect for you.

Do you know what you are seeking in a relationship and what are you willing to give in a relationship? My queens and kings take the time today to answer today's topic honestly.

Peace and Blessings,

Tracey ReNissa