The Inconvenience of the Truth

Using the phrase "the inconvenience of the truth" drives home the point that honesty, integrity and decency are attributes of the past. The intentional act of betrayal, lies, deception, forgery, and misrepresentation are more prevalent and obtuse than ever before. Men this is not a dis on you but the convenience of the truth.

It is quite sad and disheartening that as very grown people, we have not evolved as kings and queens. The kings and queens that is inherently our true destiny. We constantly allow society to dictate how we should interact with one another. The art and mastery of foolery and bullshit have been taken to a new height with the savviness of modern technology. Why is it more convenient to constantly engage in the untruth, to deceive, to knowingly hurt and then walk away like a hit and run driver. The damage is so massive and sometimes irreversible. Your arrogance to blame the victim by saying she knew the truth and then deflecting the blame and devastation onto your victim.

Men do your hearts not weigh heavy from the devastation and the carnage that you leave rotting and decaying by the road side. The cold black necrotic desolent souls that were once vibrant, colorful, loving, are now termed Bitches for women. We now function as Bitches from the mistreatment, the abandonment of love, the insensitivity of our feelings, the misuse of our pussies that are used over and over again with no regards to the fact that this same warm moist cervix of pleasure is used to bring forth life. How does the truth become such an inconvenience?

The inconvenience of the truth is no longer an acceptable behavior that will be tolerated by me from you. I will no longer, knowingly, allow the the inconvenience of the truth to be the basis and foundation of my relationship.

Queens, don't allow the inconvenience of the truth taint your souls. Regain your vibrancy, your love, your zest and your innate nurturing and loving attributes that God hand picked for us.

Peace and Blessings,

Tracey ReNissa

I Got A Man

Ladies, I am so on board with the idea of having a man, a companion, a soul mate, a rock, and a ying to my yang. I am currently single and wish to be connected to my Mr. Right. Understand, my Mr. Right, for me only.

I really believe the ambiguity of the roles that men and women have in relationships have been altered so much that there is uncertainty and confusion about what is to be expected from each other and has led to the demise and downward spiral of the black man and black woman's relationship. The waters are murky and we, women, have definitely brought into the media hype of more of us than them.

With that said, it is disheartening as a woman, that we have lowered our standards to the point of obscurity. We expect little to nothing from our men in fear that it will chase them away. We have allowed our men to disrespect us over and over again. I, too, have given into lowering my standards at times thinking if I submit to not having any expectations of wanting a serious committing relationship, he will see my heart and good qualities and will change his mind, NOT. The typical man will continue to get it in and not commit because there are no expectations and the bigger picture is he doesn't want me. He doesn't want me for that special role and title of His Woman.

There is this new phenomenon that is absolutely amazing to me and that is the growing number of men moving in with women. I'm not talking about men leaving their own house or apartment to consolidate and move in with the woman but men who have obviously moved from their other woman's house, their mother's place or their boy's place to move in with you. You are still handling the bills and mortgage and his input, again, is minimum because you don't want to stress him, pressure him or place any expectations that are required of a Real Man. Now, I can hear the overwhelming voices of men saying "help a brother when he's down". My response is, I do believe in standing by your man when he is faced with hardship. How many men would allow you to move in with him while you are getting yourself together? I'm not talking about brothers that have fallen on hard times but has a proven track record of handing his business. This is applicable to the man who will always jump from woman to woman with their own place. Women you know who you are.

I have a friend that met a man and he moved in with her and her kids. Since that initial move, they have moved two other times at her expense. He has never had the responsibility of paying the mortgage or taking care of her and the household. Now finances does not always afford a man to be the sole or the primary provider. But when you have the unmitigated gall to quit your job and refuse to work because it's not what you want, I don't blame him, I blame the woman. I am looking at you women for allowing this substandard behavior and treatment. He doesn't take you anywhere, you have supported him several times while he enrolled into different schools to learn a new trade, you allowed the disrespect of his children, you endured the other woman coming to your house to inform you that she is looking for HER man and he leaves your house to chase her to explain to her, you allow him back into your home with the empty and void promises that he has changed. But I Got A Man.

Or let's take another sad but true story. Your man has been battling drug addiction for years. During his battle with drugs, he has lured you into his odyssey of insanity. He talks you into deviate sex with a young drug dealer while he watched and received free drugs. After his high, he accuses you of being a whore and wanting it. The manipulation is constant. He uses the Bible to recite verses to condemn you and degrade you about your role as a wife. While he parades his many women in your face. In your moment to defend him, you tell me you love the man not the behavior. What kind of Bull Shit is this. The behavior makes the man and do you only take the "good" qualities and dismiss the deviate, manipulative, cowardly attributes and disown them. He has not consistently paid child support for the past 2 years. But I Got A Man.

You see my sisters, it's not the men, it's our lack of self respect, low self esteem, it's our void of knowing our self worth, it's the need to be wanted void of true emotions and commitment from our choice of men and ultimately it's that emptiness in us that we have allowed to be filled with falsehood, broken promises, disrespect, unaccountability, manipulation and abuse. I, too, desire to be touched, loved, caressed, held and worshiped as the true Queen that I am but I am not willing to just have a man.

Peace and Blessings,

Tracey ReNissa

The Current Economic Climate....How Has It Affected Our Black Community...Or Is It Status Quo For Most Of Us...We Embrace Hardship on A Daily Basis...Can We Ride It Out?

Wow...Foreclosure, bankruptcy, default, bad credit and the list goes on and on. Come on my brothas and sistahs. There is a reason Martin Luther King said "We Shall Overcome". We have in our DNA this innate, natural, organic, Blessed by God, chromosome to rise up after adversity. We are the original Phoenix that will eventually soar above it all. History has proven this time and time again.

We are use to not having things handed to us, so while the rest of the world spirals down out of control (lack of finances, the sources to secure employment and lack of credit), they are out of sorts and ready to commit suicide or their world plummets into manic depression followed by massive use of drugs and sedatives.

Now, I don't want to mislead anyone to believe that the current economic climate isn't hurting me and my friends, but it's all about how you handle and overcome adversity.

How has this economy impacted you and how do you overcome.

Peace and Blessings,

Tracey ReNissa

"Keep Focused on the Substantiative Issues. To Make a Decision Means Having to go Through One Door and Closing All Others.""...Abraham Zalenznik

As Black People, Are We Still Pro-Obama...Are We Still Enthralled With This Man Of Charisma and Grace That Led This Country To Elect Our First Black President...Or Are You Disenchanted With Obama and His Policies and Why....What Expectations Did You Have and Were They Met?

Good morning my queens and kings. As we so quickly approach another Presidential Election (2012), we are faced with the daunting task, might I say responsibility, of choosing the best capable person, Commander in Chief, to lead our country.

As I ponder and marvel over the accomplishments of President Obama, I must also, in fairness, recount some of the promises that were proposed by President Obama that have not come into fruition. I do not believe that the President was blowing smoke and feeding us pie in the sky fairy tales for us to buy into. In fact, the impact and magnitude of fulfilling these promises, to me, have proven to be larger and more challenging than he could have initially imagined.

With the recent shift of Republicans vs. Democrats in Congress, there is very little chance of bipartisanship to support President Obama. Greater than partisanship, there is the unspoken truth, the big yellow elephant in the center of the room that won't go away, Racism. Unfortunately, there is a under current to stall and sabotage anything the President is trying to pass even at the expense and demise of the constituents who voted for these men and women to to come together under one accord to help improve this very unstable economic climate.

What are your thoughts? Do we continue to support President Obama because he is a black man, a man of color, or does your allegiance for this man go much deeper than the color of his skin. Do you stand firmly beside him in his views on domestic and foreign policies and his plans to bring our economy from record lows. Have you grown tired of the rhetoric and is eagerly awaiting to start anew. Here is your opportunity to express your views.

Peace and Blessings,

Tracey ReNissa